Improve all of your relationships starting with your relationship with yourself. A radical new path to revolutionise your relationships Why are our closest relationships so often a source of more stress than solace? Whether the relationship is with a romantic partner a parent child friend or colleague the dynamic is frequently the same - you'd like the relationship to change for the better yet nothing you try seems to work. Author of international bestseller How to Do the Work Dr Nicole LePera has heard these frustrating patterns of loneliness disconnection and resentment described time and again both from patients in her clinical practice and from her global online community @the.holistic.psychologist. In this groundbreaking book she offers a new path to healing our relationships by tapping into the power of the heart. How to Be the Love You Seek harnesses the latest scientific research to teach us how to recognise our dysfunctional patterns identify their roots in our earliest relationships break painful cycles build security and share compassion with ourselves and others. Through stories exercises journal prompts and other practical tools Dr LePera empowers us first to strengthen our foundation of self-love paving the way for deeper more harmonious connections with those around us. When you become the love you seek you have the power to transform every relationship from your most intimate partnerships to the bonds that hold our communities together.